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Sons of Dementia Patient Respond to Sexual Misconduct Charge

A 63-year-old man with a form of dementia was charged with first-degree sexual misconduct. His sons say it's not right.

 

The two sons of John G. Edwards say they're outraged by recent actions taken by the Brentwood Police Department and the St. Louis County Prosecuting Attorney’s office.

On Wednesday, a Patch article noted that Edwards was charged with first-degree sexual misconduct after a police report stated that Edwards touched a woman's breast while standing in line at the Brentwood Dry Clean Spot on May 30.

Edwards no longer drives. His wife had driven him there and was waiting outside in the car.

Edwards, 63, has been diagnosed with frontotemporal dementia, which causes "progressive deterioration of the frontal and temporal lobes of the brain, and includes among its primary symptoms dramatic personality changes, loss of reasoning faculties, and an inability to control one's impulses," stated Grant Edwards, one of John Edward's sons, in an email to Patch.

“It's inconceivable to me that the prosecutor decided to proceed with a formal charge after verifying the facts of John's terminal brain disease,” he said.

Frontotemporal dementia patients exhibit a loss of inhibition, which can result in socially inappropriate and embarrassing behavior, like shoplifting or laughing at a funeral, stated Matt Edwards, John Edward's other son.

He said that his father has had frontotemporal dementia for more than nine years. Most people survive for eight years with the condition, he said.

There is no cure for frontotemporal dementia, which represents more than 10 percent of all dementia cases and affects nearly 50,000 Americans, according to The Association for Frontotemporal Degeneration, a nonprofit organization charged with public education, research and outreach about the illness.

Update:

Maj. Dan Fitzgerald of the Brentwood Police Department said the charge came from the St. Louis County Prosecuting Attorney’s office, which has been reached for comment.

Read yesterday's article on this subject:

Sexual Misconduct Charges Filed Against Dementia Patient in Brentwood

Related Topics: Dementia and frontotemporal dementia

Pat Maloney (Wilken)

7:43 am on Thursday, August 30, 2012

You wonder sometimes about the brains of some of our public officials. My father had dementia and while not the same kind, a family going through that is a sad family anyway. Then to have this (charge of sexual misconduct) in front of them too, just adds to the sadness. I really think sometimes, that people don't use the common sense that God gave them. And to have TWO departments of our criminal system not using their common sense (the police and the prosecutor's office), well I just don't know. Come on guys.....he is SICK with a brain disease.

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Brandon Jones

7:44 am on Thursday, August 30, 2012

If this is true, and they did in fact verify it before hand, then shame on them for charging him. And did they tell the woman this? She could drop the charges herself.

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Jean Whit

8:07 am on Thursday, August 30, 2012

Why are the sons leaving what they describe as a terminally ill father walk around in dry cleaners, or elsewhere, accosting people. And is he driving too!!!! Maybe it's a wakeup call for the sons?

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Doug Miner

8:57 am on Thursday, August 30, 2012

Jean - Sorry, the previous article stated Edwards no longer drives, and was driven there by his wife. I've added that to this article as well.

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Grant Edwards

10:14 am on Thursday, August 30, 2012

Jean,
This is a reasonable question. In reply, first, John is not a danger to others in his condition. He is a sweet person with childlike mannerisms, and although he says some incredibly odd things to strangers (e.g., the police report states that he could not follow the officer's questions and instead bragged about how he scored 31 points in a basketball game for Brentwood High in 1968!), he is not violent.
It's unfortunate what happened at the cleaners. John has made the same index-finger-pointing gesture in the direction of my g/f's chest, saying "How are you?"; it's a slow, non-threatening movement (although I can understand how this young woman would have been upset).
Perhaps we need to keep a closer eye on him, but we have consulted with neurologists at Wash U to make the appropriate determinations. My mom, Kathy, recognizes that John's capacity to enjoy life is diminishing sharply. She has tried admirably to preserve for him a small amount of personal liberty, after having had to take away his car and generally confine him to their house. His cognitive abilities are weak, but he remains a proud man who enjoys people. It's a constant chore to monitor his every action in social settings, and sometimes an occasionally embarrassing incident can only be rectified by explaining to others the nature of FTD. Until this episode, however, others have always responded with understanding and compassion.

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Sarah Wood

11:18 am on Thursday, August 30, 2012

I know and love this family and have watched John's condition for the last 3 years. First of all, I would never call his behavior "accosting". It's more like a small child who would point to a woman's breast and say "boobie." John is sweet.
Since this disease is degenerative, there are distinct stages that John has gone through and the family has had to adjust as these stages present themselves.
Kathy is an amazing care-giver. It is obvious how much she loves her husband and her strength is admirable. She cares for him full-time and is trying to give him "quality of life" even though he is slipping away.
Driving him to the cleaners so he can walk inside, say hello to the women who work there, pay for the cleaning and walk back to the car was one of the last independent actions that Kathy trusted he was capable of doing. The women who work there know John and are helpful while he is there. Unfortunately, since John touched this customer in the cleaners, now the family must adjust to yet another sign that John's condition is getting worse and it is time to male another adjustment.
Just by suggesting that John's family has been irresponsible in the way they have dealt with this devastating disease is offensive to those of us who know what this family is going though. This situation is unfortunate for everyone involved.
Maybe it will bring some awareness to FTD and brain disease and create some empathy for a person who is suffering and the family who is dealing with it.

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Gary E Holt

10:44 pm on Thursday, August 30, 2012

It says his wife drove him there and was waiting outside for him.

Susan ryan

8:08 am on Thursday, August 30, 2012

Dementia robs memories and lives. Anyone familiar with this progressive disease can attest to the personality changes and loss of reasoning and inhibitions.

Sadly, it appears Mr Edwards is in the latter stages of this disease and should have been accompanied.

Having verified his dementia - compassion, sensitivity and discretion seemed more in order than being charged with sexual misconduct.

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Thomas Gibson

11:54 am on Thursday, August 30, 2012

Grant, I went through the same thing with my dad before he passed. My thoughts and prayers are with you. Wish I knew how to make it easier for you, but alas, I do not. Just stay strong and show him you love him. Good luck to your dad.

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Grant Edwards

9:17 am on Monday, September 17, 2012

I meant to reply earlier, Thomas. THANK YOU for your comments.
Best,
Grant

Mr. Completely

6:23 am on Friday, August 31, 2012

We live in a nation of laws. If it was your wife or worse, daughter who was "groped" at the dry cleaners you'd be looking for some justice, or at least some measure of deterrence for other women who are unfortunate enough to encounter this man in a public place. If the sitiation hadn't escalated to where it is now would the guy be on his way to the cleaners, hardware store or gas station this morning groping another woman? IMO the poor mans family dropped the ball, after all this I'd bet it won't happen again.

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El

1:17 pm on Saturday, September 1, 2012

Has the family gotten a lawyer? My dad has the same thing- families go through complete hell and back and then for the court to do something THAT shameful. This possibly could have been prevented but still .... Justice has not been served!

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Julie M. Miller

12:57 pm on Thursday, September 6, 2012

You have my sympathies. It's a hard thing to go through, I know, my Dad had the same symptoms before he died. Something to think about...he had been making inappropriate advances toward the nursing home staff. It was brought up at his careplan to put him on a short term regimen of anti-psychotics. I was not amenable to this solution at first because in lots of cases, nursing homes do use anti-psychotics as a pacifier. However, it was explained to me that using one such as Halcyon for a short period of time stops these unwanted personality changes. It worked and he was taken off the anti-psychotics. Something to think about...good luck on your journey. I choose to mine the gems from the last days of my Dad's life rather the dark spots.

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